Transforming the way we experience and live through separation and divorce
How Transformative Resolution Coaching Can Help
The ending of a relationship can be a challenging time. It can often be a time when emotionally, mentally and physically, people are pushed to their limits. Whether the separation or divorce is a mutual decision or not, the change in life circumstances, emotional upheaval and uncertainty for the future can all seem overwhelming. However, most of us know that at some point in time it can lead to fresh perspectives and new beginnings.
Having the ongoing support of a transformative coach throughout the process of separation and divorce can increase the likelihood, speed, and comfort of creating and maintaining a separation agreement; reducing any animosity and increasing harmony. This can save £,000’s financially and much emotional angst, procrastination, and hurt, which affects not only you, but also those around you.
The benefits clients experience are exponential and often reverberate into other areas of life, thus having a truly transformative outcome.
Resilience
We help our clients understand how resilience works. This leads to greater resourcefulness to get on with life, make things happen and function in the day to day, even when situations appear difficult and challenging.
Clarity
At a time when the path ahead may appear both uncertain and unclear, we help you access your resourcefulness and gain more clarity on your desired outcome. We show you how you can have more peace of mind with any lack of clarity and a higher contentment with ambiguity and indecisiveness both in yourself and your ex-partner.
Your Relationship With Your Ex-Partner
Dealing with your ex-partner can be one of the biggest challenges when separating. We help you to:
Have more neutrality to deal with your ex-partner’s seemingly irrational behaviours, mood swings or viewpoints
Creating a degree of connection, empathy and mutual understanding which previously seemed impossible
Leading to a greater ability to listen and higher quality of dialogue which increases the speed, outcome and mutuality of any separation agreements
What is Missing in the Traditional Conventional Approaches?
It very normalised in society that separation and divorce is a long, uncomfortable process that usually takes a lot of ‘getting over’ and involving lots of compromise and resentment. There are strategies you can adopt to cope with and manage that, and make the ‘best of a bad situation’. So, whether it is counselling, mindfulness practice, or just getting back out there, they can be helpful strategies in reducing the suffering of our transition; but what they aren’t doing, is shifting our fundamental perspective on how we see the situation.
We work in a new and pioneering approach to help people transform. We enable our clients to gain a fresh understanding on how the human mind works, for any of us, in any situation; and to understand how we are shaping our experiences and hence our reality in any given moment. With this understanding, clients can access their infinite inner resourcefulness and well-being even when it feels like our circumstances are dictating our lives, and we can’t see a way forward without sacrifice and pain.
FAQ
How is this different to mediation?
Mediation is effective by creating an environment where two parties can attempt to find a more constructive way to express their wishes and needs, the structure of the intervention allows both parties to be heard without interruption or judgement, this can stimulate a new perspective and therefore lead to a resolution.
With transformative resolution coaching, you will experience the following differences:
A shift from compromise to consensus
A shift from muted resentment to a more neutral genuine acceptance
A shift from a comparison of separate worlds where each party is trying to convince or influence, to the creation of new joint shared view where there are more shared perspectives
A shift from the focus being on a specific resolution on the current issues, to creating a foundation for a more harmonious future
Is this therapy?
Traditional therapy is content focused and attempts to get people to have a re-framed view or acceptance on the perceived source of their world view on how they see things.
Whereas this transformative work is more 'upstream'and enables us to see that the nature of our content (reality) is illusionary, and we have an ability to have wellbeing regardless to the external situation.
Traditional therapy requires an openness for people to share their inner most narratives, in this approach we don't require any delving into the past or personal sharing.
What happens if one of us backs out?
In an ideal world both parties would embrace this understanding together, however if one person is unwilling there are still significant benefits for the individual. Many of our clients have realised these benefits independently, and have experienced the value of it extending to the family as a whole.
What are your fees?
The service we offer is quite bespoke. We can give you an estimation following a quick phone call about your situation.
Peace of Mind - whereas we can't quite offer a money back guarantee if you don't get your desired resolution. We believe in being of value, so if you don't think our service has been valuable, we will discuss a refund for you.